Love and cancer

The thing that matters is to love in such a way that the object of your love feels as if there is nothing that could change that love. It's not fair or just how that love is allotted--some may want love where it cannot be given or not recognize it when it's there, and miss it altogether.

But in a way, a natural consequence of a love like that is to be entirely taken for granted. You will know that you have loved someone that way when they feel so secure in your love they can go out in the world knowing it will be there when they return without even consciously thinking about it. This is typically expressed as parental and familial love--I would never advocate romantic love that receives no  acknowledgment or reciprocation, though there are definitely moments when you have to love your spouse this way, too.

You will know you have been loved like that when you lose it, or are about to lose it--I guess that's the twist, huh?

Cancer sucks.